COUPLES THERAPY & SEX THERAPY

Private Practice Ina Koslowski · Berlin · In-Person & Online

Sometimes there are no words for what’s happening between you

For the distance that has grown without you quite noticing. For the feeling of standing side by side and still feeling alone. For the exhaustion after another argument that went nowhere – again.

You’re in the right place.

At my private practice for couples therapy and sex therapy in Berlin, I work with partners who want to find their way back to each other or who need help figuring out where they’re headed together.

Whether you’re in the middle of a crisis, caught in the same loop for years, or simply sensing that your relationship deserves more attention: there’s no wrong time to start.

I work with couples from all backgrounds, including expats and international couples living in Berlin. Sessions are conducted in English.

When does couples therapy make sense?

Couples therapy in Berlin can support you in many different situations – not just when things feel like they’re falling apart:

Arguments are escalating and leaving both of you hurt
One or both of you has emotionally withdrawn
Trust has been broken – through an affair, a betrayal, or a painful disappointment
You want more closeness but can’t find the way to each other
Major life changes – kids, a move, illness, loss – are putting pressure on your relationship
You’re living abroad and navigating relationship challenges without your usual support network
You’re questioning the relationship and want clarity – together or individually

Together, we work toward stepping out of the cycle and building a new quality of connection – without blame, without pressure, with real understanding for each other.

Topics in couples therapy

Relationship skills and satisfaction
Communication in a partnership
Sexuality in a partnership
Overcoming a crisis
Dealing with affairs

Significant stages and events in life
Dealing with intense feelings and emotions in a relationship
Dealing with grief
Loss of a partner
Ending relationships / separation support

My EMotion Focused THErapy approach

I work from an integrative perspective tailored to the needs of each individual and couple.
The approach of Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT-c) helps partners understand and transform emotional patterns, fostering secure connection and closeness whereas the concept of Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) is an experiential psychodynamic approach that facilitates access to underlying emotions, helping to resolve inner conflicts and promote lasting change.
My work is complemented by elements of the concept of Syndiastic Sex Therapy, with a focus on enhancing intimacy, deepening emotional and physical connection, and supporting a more open and fulfilling experience of sexuality.

What that means for you: We don’t just look at what you’re saying – we look at what you’re feeling. Behind conflict and distance, there are often deep, unmet needs that haven’t been heard. That’s exactly where we start.

My focus is on:

De-escalating recurring conflict patterns
Building emotional safety and trust
Improving communication – including nonverbal and physical intimacy
Developing a deeper understanding of each other and yourselves

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About ME – Ina Koslowski

I am a systemic therapist, couples and sex therapist with a private practice in Berlin since 2009, certified in:

Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP)
Emotion Focused Therapy / Couples Therapy (EFT)
Systemic Sex Therapy
Systemic Couples Therapy
Systemic Counselling and Therapy
Intimacy Coordination Level II “Intimacy on Set” with Ita O’Brien
Occupational Therapy (BPH)
Alternative Practitioner Psychotherapy (HeilprG Psychotherapy)

I work with all kinds of couples and people, including heterosexual couples, homosexual couples, and people of all gender identities. I am open and equal with everyone.

Memberships

Sex therapy in Berlin: Intimacy as part of your relationship

Sexuality isn’t a separate topic – it’s a reflection of your emotional and physical intimacy. In my sex therapy practice in Berlin, we talk about the things many couples struggle to discuss with each other: how intimacy is lived and experienced within your relationship, (un)met needs, hurt feelings, insecurities and self-doubts and of course what you would like to (re)connect with.

My approach is experience-based and informed also by the concept of Syndiastic Sex Therapy, developed at the Institute for Sexual Science and Sexual Medicine in Berlin. We address the fulfillment of fundamental human needs e.g. feeling close, understood, secure, protected and validated to cultivate a healthier, more empowering relationship. Using verbal and non-verbal intimate communication to foster a deeper connection and a sense of belonging,

Topics in sex therapy

Unsatisfactory communication and relationship building in the area of sexuality
Relationship crises due to disappointment or breaches of trust
Sexuality and physical/mental impairments
Dealing with sexual dysfunction
Sexual identity
Dealing with (as yet) unfulfilled or one-sided desire to have children

Questions about one’s own gender identity, sexual orientation, or preference
Understanding and dealing with one’s own/partner’s sexual experiences and behavior
Dealing with emotions in the areas of sexuality and intimacy
Sexuality and aging
Sexuality and physical/mental impairments

My approach to sex therapy

My work draws on an integrative approach shaped by three well-researched methods:

Syndiastric Sex Therapy: developed at the Institute for Sexual Science and Sexual Medicine in Berlin. This approach deliberately moves away from symptoms and dysfunction, focusing instead on relationship quality, mutual experience, and sexual satisfaction as part of the partnership.

Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT): because sexual difficulties often mask emotional wounds or unmet attachment needs that need to be addressed first.

Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP): Some patterns run deeper than the relationship itself. Old wounds, learned defenses, ways of protecting ourselves that made sense once but now create distance. This is where we look at what lies beneath the surface, not to analyze the past, but to free up space for something different in the present.

My focus is on:

De-escalating recurring conflict patterns
Building emotional safety and trust
Improving emotional communication — including nonverbal and physical intimacy
Developing a deeper understanding of each other and yourselves

“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.”
– Erich Fromm

How therapy works

Initial session – we get to know each other

In our first conversation – in person in Berlin or online – you tell me what is relevant to you. What’s been weighing on you, what you’re hoping for, where you are right now.

I’ll walk you through my approach and we’ll figure out together whether and how I can support you. No pressure, no commitment.

Choosing the right format

Together we decide what fits your situation best: regular sessions over time, short-notice appointments during an acute crisis, or an intensive block format for deeper change in a concentrated period.

We work – and we adapt

Therapy isn’t a fixed program. We evaluate the process continuously and adjust methods, frequency, and format as you develop. The goal isn’t to do as much as possible but as little as necessary for you to actually feel the difference.

Ready to take the first step?

The first step is often the hardest. But you’ve already taken it by being here.

I look forward to meeting you – in a initial session, in person in Berlin or online. Book your appointment directly through the scheduling system:

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Prices: The private fee for an initial consultation is 180 €/60 mim (as single or couple attendee)

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What happens when you stay

Couples therapy offers something that’s hard to create on your own: a space held by someone outside the relationship. A place where the conversation can go deeper, guided but without judgment.

In that space, things shift. Patterns that felt fixed begin to loosen. What looked like an irreconcilable difference often reveals itself as something quieter — two people who lost the ability to truly hear each other.

Therapy won’t give you answers. But it gives you a new perspective on your relationship, one that’s harder to find when you’re right in the middle of it.

We were about to end our 30-year partnership and marriage. It felt hopeless. But at some point in therapy, we started to really see each other again. Today, I can say that this crisis was the best thing that could have happened to us. We have grown very close.
A. & L., Berlin, Schönefeld (couples therapy after a relationship crisis)

We had become so used to each other that we stopped paying attention to each other. The sessions with Ina taught us how to do that again without blaming or pressuring anyone. We just need to understand each other better.
M. & T., Berlin (couples therapy 2025)

We didn’t talk about sex because it felt like a bad topic to talk about. Even between us, it was hard. Ina made a space where we could talk openly without feeling awkward. That has changed a lot more than just the therapy itself.
K. & J., Potsdam (sex therapy 2024)

We worked with Ina online, and the project immediately took on a deeper level. My partner and I weren’t sure if it would work. But her method and her calm manner really helped us.
P. & S., online (couples therapy 2025)

FAQ – SECTIOn

Yes. Ina Koslowski leads all couples therapy and sex therapy sessions in English. Her office is in Berlin, but she also offers online sessions. This makes it easy for expats, international couples, and anyone who prefers to work in English to schedule an appointment.